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The Code4Couples Mission

Code4Couples is committed to empowering law enforcement officers, partners, and departments with the information and tools they need to understand the psychological and relational impact of the job and create connected relationships between officers and families, leading to increased resilience and officer safety.

Departments

Educate your officers and their spouses to counter the impact of the job on their mental and relational health.

Officers

Learn the psychological impact of the job and how it can spill over to negatively impact your personal life.

Couples

Beat the odds! Create a strong partnership of understanding, support, and resilience.

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How can I help strengthen your police department?

Thrive in your law enforcement career. Code4Couples® helps you navigate unique challenges and cultivates stronger bonds.

We've Helped People Just Like You

“The hold the line train the trainer course is more than worth the investment. I am walking away with a high quality curriculum, that is ready to use immediately. I am beyond grateful for the opportunity to participate in this course.”

“This has been a fantastic class and extremely relevant for brand new officers as well as the crusty veteran and their spouses. I would highly recommend this training to anyone looking to expand their understanding of the law enforcement profession and its challenges as well as ways to prevent many of the pitfalls we often fall into throughout the career.”

“An invaluable course where the data presented really drives home to the need to embrace mental health and all it affects. A lot of self awareness came up for me and being able to identify behaviors in myself and those I love. I love it!”

“This training gives the trainer actual material to bring back to immediately implement! The training is engaging and loaded with valuable information!”

Hold The Line

Written by Cyndi Doyle, psychotherapist and LEO spouse, incorporates research, psychology, and personal stories to help officers and spouses understand the spill over from the job on their relationship and tools to counter the impact.

The Workbook

With helpful assessments, activities, resources and much more, this workbook is a guide to getting your relationship back on track.

Explore our Latest Podcasts

The Wounded Blue

When Lieutenant Randy Sutton first put on the badge in 1976, policing looked a lot different. Officers could do their jobs without the constant scrutiny of a body camera or the looming fear of public backlash. They were respected. Supported. And even though the job was always dangerous, the culture

Sleep psychologist and author Leah Elizabeth Kaylor breaks down the importance of sleep health for first responders. Leah’s been the go-to sleep expert for the FBI and is now sharing her insights with us, including tips on how to reset poor sleep habits, manage nightmares, and even navigate the idea of “sleep divorce” being health for relationships.

Sleep Hygiene for First Responders

Sleep can feel like a luxury in law enforcement. Between shift work, court schedules, overtime, and home responsibilities, rest often gets pushed to the bottom of the priority list.

But here’s the truth that people don’t frequently discuss. Your sleep (or lack of it) impacts EVERYTHING: your mood, your

Breaking Down The Armor and The Mental Health Stigma in Law Enforcement

Law enforcement teaches officers how to handle chaos, make quick decisions, and keep emotions in check to get the job done. But what happens when that same skill set that keeps officers safe on duty starts to create distance at home?

For Zachary Saenz, that emotional armor was a

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Check out the information and strategies provided in the book or free guide to help strengthen law enforcement relationships.

Why Choose Code4Couples

With specialized training and real-world, day-to-day experience as the wife of an officer, Cyndi helps struggling police departments find their voice.

Through the application of a non-judgmental, no-nonsense approach, Cyndi delivers the skills to cope and grow stronger. Together.

Don’t forget to check out the FREE resources to keep your relationships on the right track.

My officer keeps texting everyone on shift when they are at home and not talking to me. What do I do?

By setting, enforcing and respecting boundaries for work and home time, you’ll start to see a difference in the quality of your personal and professional life. Respectfully communicate your wishes and start the conversation on how to make it better.

My spouse won't come to counseling. How can we change our relationship?

Introduce and implement these 6 tips: (see “Training for Couples” for more details)
1. Create rituals
2. Have a positive mindset
3. Show gratitude
4. Offer generous explanations
5. Have open, honest, and respectful communication
6. Flirt with each other

How do I deal with loneliness?

Join online groups with other LEOs / spouses of LEOs to connect with others who can relate and/or volunteer in community activities, to name a few.

How can we change our relationship?

Recognizing there is a problem is the first step! You are not alone in this journey. Start by checking out Code4Couples® FREE resources to jumpstart reconnecting today!