Welcome to Code 4 Couples
Code 4 Couples Podcast Featuring Bless the Badge
Take Off Your Pants and Put On Mine
When Fear Sets In
Making Space for Your LEO
Why First Responders Need to Open Up
It’s Not About the Sponge! Stories We Tell.
Kicking the Cat: Frustration Displacement
Can You Relate? #TXFallenPD
Keeping Things Pumpkin Spicy!
Bringing PTSD Into the Light with Code 9 Project!
Kandis Hutton: LMFT and LEOW, Nailing Parenting Transition!
The Hardest Easiest Way to Communicate
Thanksgiving Fail: A Compromise Story
Overcoming Christmas Challenges
Cleaning Your Relationship House
Coping with Loneliness
How to Hear the Hard Stuff (or not so Hard Stuff) as a LEO Spouse
Recent Blog Posts
4 Attitudes That Can Impact Your Relationship - My husband just spent time at the range this week leading a firearms training and working with officers on tactical shotgun manipulation, skills and drills. He loves this part of his job and loves teaching and mentoring other officers. Their attitudinal approach toward the training effected their success during the training. Some were confident with […]
Sighting In Your Relationship Scope - Working frequently with law enforcement, I come up with several creative metaphors to help to link and connect. I’m grateful that I know the lingo and processes of various things. This gives you a little insight into how my mind works to create that connection to concepts in the field and in your relationship. […]
Shutting Out Your Spouse is Killing Your Sex Life! - Most relationships struggle with not sliding in to the monotony of daily life. As a couple, you might talk about the business of the relationship such as where the kids need to be when, finances, groceries, etc. When it comes to talking about your day or your life, many couples answer with “fine” or “the […]
Why He Doesn’t Share His Day - As a new officer, my husband shared a lot about his shift. Every day was something new and it was exciting to him to be involved in situations at work. He would often come home and tell me what had happened. As time went on, he shared less and less. I would ask, “How was […]
Staying Connected with Your Kids - Staying connected with your kids is difficult for just about everyone. Many times, families get caught up in the business of the family such as chores, errands, the management of everyone’s schedules, and who is going to chauffeur the kids where and when. Add in staying connected to your kids while you are on shift […]
Cop Hate: A Changing World for LEOs and Their Families - There was a lot of violence targeted toward the police in 2016. Living north of the DFW area, it hit close to home. It took few degrees of separation to understand how close. A friend of a friend was a family member of the DART officer that was killed. Just this past week, an officer […]
Colliding with Control at Home - Control seems to be a common theme and dare I say goal among all the officers I work with and a common complaint among those married to them. It translates to my own relationship as well as my friends who are in the field. So, let’s look at control and how the positive attribute/ability for […]
Why crowds and lines can be overwhelming – The OODA Loop. - My LEO hubby accompanied me inside Wells Fargo one day when I had to make a deposit for work. There was quite a line and remember turning around and looking up at my husband’s face and watching him. There he stood in a modified cop pose with his hands looking relaxed, fingers gently laced in […]
OMG! My Husband is a FIRST RESPONDER not just a cop! - Or How 9-11 changed my marriage. It was a family wedding. My cousin was getting married in New York and I had already bought tickets for my husband and I to fly out from Texas to the wedding in September 2001. He would get to meet my grandmother finally and get to know my mother’s […]